Friday, July 13, 2012

50 Shades of Grey/Magic Mike

Warning: Geez-Do I seriously need a warning??
This post is my opinion.
I respect opinions-whether they are the same as mine or not.
This post is my belief.
I respect beliefs-whether they are the same as mine or not.
I do not judge. You make your own choices-I honor my convictions & relationship with my Savior.

I just felt compelled to write. This is not to convince or persuade.


Magic Mike & 50 Shades of Grey.
Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways.

As much as I love a good story, you will not find me watching or reading the above titles.
Why? Well, for goes against everything I believe. Am I a "stick in the mud?" Yes, probably to the hundreds of women who have seen the movie & read the book, but no to my husband & no to my Jesus.

#1. I LOVE my husband.
When God created my husband, he created me a few short years after just for him.  I know we are walking in the will of God being married.  He's my everything & I love him unconditionally. Not only do I love & like my husband very much-I honor him.  I respect him.  I submit to him.  I have eyes only for him.  When we made a vow before God & witnesses, I took those vows very seriously. & I understand our covenant & I understand Gods instructions.  
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
{Ephesians 5:22-24}

Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.
{Genesis 3:16} 

Anyone who knows the God I'm talking about knows that he's a gentleman. You know that he is loving & wants the best for his children.  When God says submit & head and all those words-he doesn't mean that your husband is your boss and he rules over you. He's describing honor & respect & all things good.

#2. Classifications
50 Shades of Grey: Erotic Novel
Magic Mike: Sexual Content, Nudity, Coarse Language, Substance Abuse
Both titles are now being called "Mommy Porn"

When choosing what I listen to, watch, read I follow this:
“The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” 
{Matthew 6:22-23}

Okay, Christian ladies: Let's be REAL.  Would you accept/tolerate your husband reading/viewing something classified as "Daddy Porn?"

I know I wouldn't.  & I respect my husband enough not to make him doubt that something like that could even come close to satisfying or pleasing me. 

  For all that is in the world— the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world.
{1 John 2: 16}

#3. Lust, Sex, Adultery

I'm not going to say much here. I will tell you this: my sexual relationship with my husband is between me & him. I don't talk about it with others.  It is sacred.  I do know that I don't need to read a book or see a movie to desire my husband & I do know that I will not look at another man & have desire in my heart-Why tempt myself?

I will show you what God tells me:

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
{Hebrews 13:4}

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
{Matthew 5:27-28} 
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never!  Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
{1 Corinthians 6:15-18}

Jensen Franklin once described sin as a python snake.  He described the way a snake kills its prey. It slowly starts wrapping itself around it until its tightly around the victim. Sin, unless repented, will continue to grasp onto you tighter & tighter-making it harder and harder to be released.  

Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul.
{1 Peter 2:11}

But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.
{James 1:14-15}

So, ladies-Christian ladies-I encourage you.

 Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.
{Ephesians 5:11}

*Have I read the book? NO. Have I seen the movie? NO. I know those both are questions that would be first asked by the person disagreeing with my opinion & belief. I know because of the classifications that they wouldn't be my preference*

Just as God gave us instructions, he gave our husband instruction as well.  I feel that that their instructions is even tougher than ours...
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,  that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,  so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,  because we are members of his body.   “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
{Ephesians 5:25-33}

I have an Ephesians 5:25-33 husband-maybe that's why I am so passionate about this subject.  I also love Jesus & I always want to be a shining example to my son.  

We, me & Phillip, daily have someone commend our marriage or asks us how our marriage is so strong.  We put Jesus in the center & we live by the word of God.  Is our marriage perfect? Of course not, but I can tell you that we make it as close to perfect as we possibly can. 


  1. AMEN!!!! I 100% agree with you on this, putting God at the center of our relationship, is what makes the Marriage strong. It is so sad that in today's world our marriage is now considered a fairy tale marriage. I am so thankful and Blessed to have a 15 year Fairy Tale Marriage and I look forward to what God has in store for us!!

  2. I completely agree! We are to be set apart from this world...not conforming to it. Thank you for taking a stand and speaking up! :)

  3. I totally agree! I will not read those books or any of the many knock offs surrounding them on the shelves. I will admit I saw the Magic Mike movie. I caved into pressure from friends and went with them. I shouldn't have. Besides being inappropriate, it was one of the dumbest movies I've ever seen. You are not missing out on anything!


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